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kassma
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 Posted - 27 Apr 2006 : 21:56:42
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Originally posted by kisley
Kassma, sounds to me like you have got a "chip on your shoulder" about light skinned women. Its not good for your soul to have so much hatred. If you dont like Zainab, then thats fine, but dont bring colour into it.
oh my gosh, kisley you don't know me. why should i hate my light skinned sisters - girl, it is not that serious. just because i don't think light skin equals bueaty does not mean i have a "chip on my shoulder" about anything. i don't think light skin equals bueaty - that's my opinion. oh my gosh, i have hatred in my soul????!!! what!!!!wow! i'm glad you've never met me but only heard my opinion on a few things and its enough for you to know me enough to say i have hatred in my soul!!! wow! anyways, if Zainab is a prostitute, i don't like her - and that would not change if she was dark-skinned. she's ugly to me cause she's ugly, not because she's lightskinned, if she was darkskinned, i would still think she's ugly, but that's my opinion. however, i will say this though, a lot of people think lightskin equal bueaty and its simply not true, its just a product of imperialism, racism, and internal racism. |
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kassma
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Posted - 27 Apr 2006 : 22:05:58
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Originally posted by serenata
Uumpf, Donatella Versace...!!   I don't want to start a 'Barbie talk', but the connotations on skin colour are really too much, and therefore this topic is important. Mutilation in the name of beauty is as old as mankind, but the way they do it today is really hazardous and self denying. I have dark hair, blue-green eyes and a light skin. As a young teenager, I didn't like the colours of my eyes and my skin, just like kisley did. I wanted to have black hair, dark eyes and a dark skin like my aunt, which I thought to be the most beautiful woman in the world. I wanted to be a 'Greek' beauty like her. Some years after I realized that my colours make a nice and interesting contrast. I hope more Africans discover their own beauty, and don't cling to unfitting images.
i think why people cling to what they're not is because they're shown examples of how they're supposed to be and then they're shown that what they're not is better and that's why they have a better life. that's why people copy others to seem like they like something else that they're not. i think its just human, definitely not good, but human |
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serenata
Germany
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Posted - 28 Apr 2006 : 13:12:56
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You are absolutely right, Kassma. It is human, but in our days of 'globalization', mass media and -advertisement, the dimensions grow.
Showing people over and over again what is supposedly 'better', and what they will never be by nature (white, or slim, or muscular - whatever you want) is a perfect tool for manipulation and oppression. This is not only done to black people; a main target are women of all races. And damn it, the brainwash works! If we are not aware of this manipulation, we internalize the aggression. We begin to hate ourselves, our bodies, our skin colour, our character, etc. and do everything to come nearer to this ideal. If it means to smear mercury creams on our bodies, we do it; if it means to inject Botox, we do it, if it means mutilating our faces and bodies surgically, we do it - the list goes on and on. |
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kassma
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Posted - 29 Apr 2006 : 01:59:25
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Originally posted by serenata
You are absolutely right, Kassma. It is human, but in our days of 'globalization', mass media and -advertisement, the dimensions grow.
Showing people over and over again what is supposedly 'better', and what they will never be by nature (white, or slim, or muscular - whatever you want) is a perfect tool for manipulation and oppression. This is not only done to black people; a main target are women of all races. And damn it, the brainwash works! If we are not aware of this manipulation, we internalize the aggression. We begin to hate ourselves, our bodies, our skin colour, our character, etc. and do everything to come nearer to this ideal. If it means to smear mercury creams on our bodies, we do it; if it means to inject Botox, we do it, if it means mutilating our faces and bodies surgically, we do it - the list goes on and on.
of course, you're right, we are a target in almost every society on earth. most of negative aspects of society are attributed to women and like racism, we internalize this. that is the reason why blacks, Africans and women all do things that most consider unreasonable.
when you're oppressed, you really don't have any way to express your angry but at your own people or at your own sex. i can't tell you how many girls i know who say they can't stand girls period or that they want all boys when they have kids cause they can't deal with girls - if that is not internalizing sexism, i don't know what is.
and when it comes to racism, i think the white man dictates that this is beautiful, you should be like this, look like this and the whole world follows. it is the main reason why so many black men are going for white women because the white man dictated that my woman is beautiful - the black man follows cause he ultimately wants what the white man has: power. and having a white woman is definitely one step closer to being white, of course i don't think they think about it consiously. african women out there who do bleach their skin are aware of this message and they know that by bleaching their skin, people will consider them to be more beautiful because that's one step closer to being white. that is why i feel for my african sisters the most because not only are we black and already opressed but we're women too so our men, and men in general, oppress us as well. we're literally are at the bottom of society in the whole world.
and by the way, i am not trying to bash white women or black men or white men i'm just writing about the world we live in. |
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kisley
United Kingdom
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Posted - 29 Apr 2006 : 17:55:17
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| Kassma if i misunderstood you then I apologise, we all have a lot to learn |
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