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Dalton1
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 Posted - 14 Oct 2007 : 16:35:32
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By Dalton
Some lessons on anger.
Anger is healthy, but if it reaches extreme view then it is not. Here are some keypoints i researched that would help each and every one of us. With anger, you can loose family members, friends and et cetera, after you get angry at them. It came to mind, after numerous occassions being trapped in it myself, 'anger'. i realized it is a human attribute. it can be healthy, when moderate. On the other hand, it has ability to hurt and rob us of everything good. When i see others get angry, i realized no one is an angel. It is just human, natural, typical-of anyone. we are all humans and has tendency to be attacked and submerged in it. I hope this lesson will go a long way rescuing all of us. The most important thing is how to control it; how to not let it overcome our steering wheels. The "you" factor i realized is a trigger. It has a tendency to make the opposing party rage. "I" statements on the other hand, helps to let the other party understand.
I hope this lessons serves to protect all, from the bantaba head to the newest contributor. Let will nice to hear feedbacks.
1. Meditation
Close your eyes. Think of your happiest incident. Reflect deeply on what happened and how it happened. Think of another incident, probably when you were least happy. Reflect deeply on what happened and what to lead to escalated anger.
2. In/Out Breathing
Close your eyes and breathe-in continuously for five seconds. Now start releasing it out slowly for the same number of time. Do this seven times. Note how do you feel, indifference to before.
3. Talking to love ones
Call your mother, father, brother, sister, wife, children or your closest friends. Discuss some nice topics, et cetera.
4. Walk-outs
When argument is getting escalated, take time off. Reflect what will come out of it. Reflect what you can gain out of it. Reflect on the aftermath.
5. Entertainments
-Read Quran and hadiths or whatever you belief in
-watch some related movies
-Read some poetry if you are fan
-Watch CNN/GRTS/et cetera
By Yero Jallow
Anger
Tis Malady made of mere chaff,
Unreal; born of emotions,
Emanating from self beliefs,
Lifestyles and impulse of forces.
Weeks and months of taming,
Learning to shred that malady,
During the days’ best times,
Retreating on all my other beliefs.
You made me loose my love ones,
My friends and worldly admirers;
You altered my good personality,
By your action of captivity.
Please malady, leave me for good,
Let me be myself always uninfluenced;
I neither need your company,
Nor favors or even sympathy.
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"There is no god but Allah (SWT); and Muhammad (SAW)is His last messenger." shahadah. Fear & Worship Allah (SWT) Alone! (:
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Edited by - Dalton1 on 14 Oct 2007 16:55:32 |
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Momodou
Denmark
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Posted - 14 Oct 2007 : 16:58:39
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| Dalton, this is a very good reminder and very much appreciated. I would like to use the topic to remind Bantaba users to avoid turning discussions into becoming personal just because someone does not agree with you. It’s hoped that we should agree to disagree on issues. |
A clear conscience fears no accusation - proverb from Sierra Leone |
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Dalton1
3485 Posts |
Posted - 14 Oct 2007 : 17:44:57
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Mawdo Momodou,
thank you. One have to be a victim of 'anger' to know truly the damage it can cause to ones' self. sometimes, it can't be control. it's normal, but everyone must endeavor to rescue him or herself. In my search to rescue my own life, i am glad i had such instrumental tools at my disposal to use. i am glad you like it. thank you for the forum, time and again. |
"There is no god but Allah (SWT); and Muhammad (SAW)is His last messenger." shahadah. Fear & Worship Allah (SWT) Alone! (:
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kayjatta
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Posted - 15 Oct 2007 : 07:16:38
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| Thanks again Dalton, and Momodou for those insightful words. I have had my fair share of anger this week, but thank goodness the "pen" is my weapon, that is why it's been fun!Now forever I take my cool. |
Edited by - kayjatta on 15 Oct 2007 09:31:27 |
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mbay
Germany
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Posted - 15 Oct 2007 : 10:04:54
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Self succor!
Its always to have a outstanding persons like you.
Yes its our Nature, sadly that we Humans cant learn from our past ,Particular the negatives one since is the one leading us to unhealthy- environmental achievement.
I personally enjoys NR 3-4 =5-2
(3. Talking to love ones
Call your mother, father, brother, sister, wife, children or your closest friends. Discuss some nice topics, et cetera.
4. Walk-outs
When argument is getting escalated, take time off. Reflect what will come out of it. Reflect what you can gain out of it. Reflect on the aftermath.=5-2 Read Quran and hadiths or whatever you belief in)
In this case soleness has never been counted as good administrative Again thanks for the connotatively meditations. |
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Dalton1
3485 Posts |
Posted - 15 Oct 2007 : 13:04:01
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Bro Kay & Elder Mbay,
thank you much. It is so nice to hear from both you.
& thank you for all the debating spirit.
we can all shake hands, wipe it off---and move on. I am glad both you like it too. I see you guys sometime again.
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"There is no god but Allah (SWT); and Muhammad (SAW)is His last messenger." shahadah. Fear & Worship Allah (SWT) Alone! (:
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Santanfara
3460 Posts |
Posted - 15 Oct 2007 : 13:32:44
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mowdo yero , i just spoted your poem .thanks .its good that we have young people who are inspirational ,there still hope for our country .
i will take this opportunity to appologise to any one who may have feel offended one way or the other during my ongoing debate with kayatta on the topic about 'ALCAHOL'. i may have written some strong words ,but i wasn't in any way angry.rasulah advice us to keep cool with our anger .anger is unhealthy .regardless ,we see things differently .
may peace reign on humanity .i am travelling soon ,enjoy bantaba whilst i am on my little joruney .wish me good fortune guys and girls.my salam to all. |
Surah- Ar-Rum 30-22
"And among His signs is the creation of heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge." Qu'ran
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concort
365 Posts |
Posted - 15 Oct 2007 : 19:12:27
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May I appeal to Turk to follow suit to apologize to Kay for calling him names? After all, we are all adults and we will be held accountable for our actions one day.
Kay, I don't think that I've offended you during the debate. If I did, please let me know and I won't hesitate to extend my sincerest apology.
We should be very careful when debating about people's culture, religion or political views. I know that such topics are welcome at this forum but people take these discussions seriously. We must keep our cool at all times.
Also, may I appeal to Uncle Momodou to intervene in the future when debates start gearing towards personal attacks and name calling? If not, we should take it upon ourselves to do so just like Dalton and Meme did. Afterall, we are a family here at the Bantaba. |
As Salamu Alaikum Waramatullah Wabarakatu |
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kayjatta
2978 Posts |
Posted - 16 Oct 2007 : 06:31:25
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| Thanks Concort, no you did not offend me in any way. I like it when people express their honest opinions even if they do not agree with me. It is just much better to focus on issues rather than personalities,like you said rightly... |
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turk
USA
3356 Posts |
Posted - 16 Oct 2007 : 21:39:01
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Kayjatta
Stop acting like a baby. You know you are yankee and you love it and you take it as a compliment. I mean you never complained about being called yankee. If you ask apology for that I may give you one.
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diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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Karamba
United Kingdom
3820 Posts |
Posted - 16 Oct 2007 : 22:14:12
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Dalton1
Your piece on anger management is soothing. Subscribing to your good intention of bailing out the several victims of anger, two authors came to my memory; Dale Carnergie (How to Stop Worrying and Start Living) and Norman Vincent Peale (The Amazing Power of Positive Thinking.) These texts have been used in motivational circles and make good reading. I belief Worry and Anger swing along in some experiences. A person becomes worried, angry, worried, angry, and explodes into despair and then...
Both Dale and Norman have written other materials worth reading. Another short piece that may help victims of anger is DESIDERATA. The whole text can be accessed by typing the word on search space. Thank you for coming to the salvation of the many victims. |
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