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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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 Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 19:25:10
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I am not questioning anyone elses decision! I wish I was brave enough to make that leap into the dark! I am too sensible. I have the check list in my head and if I am uncertain I wont say yes to get married!
I don't want to be made a fool of! WHat if the man runs away as soon as he gets to UK????! 
I have a 4 year relationship with a senegalese guy, but the bottom line is I dont think I trust him enough to get married. It's a shame he couldnt just come to UK to live with me without getting married! Then if it doesnt work we would just split.
I cant help being sensible, I am a teacher and Virgo!!
The white women you see getting married on holiday give me a mix of feelings: I think how daft and reckless, but also how brave! I am not that brave.
I worry about my daughters, my parents, my friends........ I dont want to be made an ***** of! |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 19:26:20
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| The word is *****...is that too rude???? |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 19:27:23
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serenata
Germany
1400 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 19:48:11
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Bev, who do you mean with I D I O T - yourself, me, or bobbyh?
I always ran away from marriage. Until I met my husband, there was no better way for a man to get rid of me than asking me to marry him. I was really phobic about getting married, though my parents had a stable and not even boring marriage. But after my marriage I realized it was not half as dangerous as I always thought... No risk, no fun. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:07:19
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| I meant me! |
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serenata
Germany
1400 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:24:05
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Sometimes we are smart, sometimes we are the *****s - that's life..!
I don't think the word ***** is too rude, but I am a savage German . Maybe Momodou thinks if the words would be allowed here the Bantaba would soon look like a forum for mentally retarded people... so many members adressing others as *****s... - No, we are definitely not like that. |
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bobbyh
United Kingdom
7 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:37:34
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fee-sweetie and serenta , thanks for the postings... i didnt come on the site to be judged or to go in depth about my personal relationship with all the questions asked by Gambiabev..i just wanted people to share their common experience if they chose to. i will have to ask my partner to ckeck out the bacehlor certificate, thank you Serenta |
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serenata
Germany
1400 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:39:15
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| De nada. Good luck! |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:39:39
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| My questions are not meant badly. I am just curious. |
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Santanfara
3460 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:50:10
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quote:
Originally posted by bobbyh
fee-sweetie and serenta, thanks for the postings... i didnt come on the site to be judged or to go in depth about my personal relationship with all the questions asked by Gambiabev..i just wanted people to share their common experience if they chose to. i will have to ask my partner to ckeck out the bacehlor certificate, thank you Serenta
bobbyh. thanks for trying to find out from us the marriage process in banjul. to begin with some people get a bad experience from past decisions so they think it is not necessary to marry ,just have a close relationship. but the path you are choosing is very important and respectable.
i got married not very long ago in serekunda. the process takes two hours. i did mine in a mosque then went to the registry office in bundung. there you pay a fee for the cerificates and processes. you have to have a withness to counter sign for you and the same for your intended husband. the fee is very small. that time it was d500 which is 20 euro.
marraige is an immportant institution which was practice since time immemorial. it bring closeness and love in a relationship. some couples have bad experience ,but hey even our tonque some times get in the way of the teeth. so go do it.
the process is very easy now a days. your partner can even book a day ahead. good luck sister. with love and prayers .santanfara |
Surah- Ar-Rum 30-22
"And among His signs is the creation of heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. verily, in that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge." Qu'ran
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bobbyh
United Kingdom
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Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:58:00
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| SANTANFARA..was this recent, i am wondering if my partner and i could that..sounds easier than the stories i've heard about going to the registry in banjul |
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bobbyh
United Kingdom
7 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 20:59:17
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| i am open to the process of marriage and watching our love grow. |
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fee_sweetie
United Kingdom
127 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 21:20:37
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one little thing i would have to add also is to gambia bev...what makes you automatically ashume we are over 40 getting married to a younger guy????? and on holiday????
If you look at my profile, i am 24 and my partner is 27.. so not a big age gap there....... |
"Religion is an insult to human dignity. Without it you'd have good people doing good things + evil people doing evil things but for good people to do evil things it takes religion"- Richard Dawkins |
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kondorong
Gambia
4380 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 21:21:22
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Originally posted by fee_sweetie
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Bantaba is an open forum and you should be receptive to divergent views. This segment is not called a forum but BANTABA which means an open place where members are open to different ideas.
How wrong you are because if you look at the top of the page, i think you will find that it says General forum......and yes it is to share people views and to discuss issues...but if u read my post carefully...im saying that i cant understand why if someone asks a QUESTION...why do u answer with something that is not relevant just because you dont know the answer.....and yet again rude is not out of place because you were sharing views that were not asked for....????!!!!!
Im not fighting other peoples battles....but felt i needed to write that comment as i too was going to post,as i wanted to hear about peoples marriage experiences in the Gambia...and I personally wouldn't of appreciated some of the rude comments that were posted for bobby....
You can take a horse to the river but you cannot force it to drink. Did you look at the main page. It says BANTABA IN CYBERSPACE. That is the name incase you forgot.
Just like Ghandi said, the law an eye for an eye only makes the world world go blind. I am not into such line of postings using inappropiate words. They dont exist in my vocabulary and dont intend to learn any.
If you are not fighting someone's battle, then why get so furious about something that does not affect you. Booby can and is competent to speak for herself unless you and Bobby are the same person.
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fee_sweetie
United Kingdom
127 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 21:25:59
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| it's ashame to see you can use big words and fancy quotes but you cant read.....haha people today crack me up |
"Religion is an insult to human dignity. Without it you'd have good people doing good things + evil people doing evil things but for good people to do evil things it takes religion"- Richard Dawkins |
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