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bobbyh
United Kingdom
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 Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 12:52:23
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I was wondering if anyone has recently got married in the Gambia and if they could share their experiences with me. I have a few questions and would GREATLY appreciate all the advice/help I can get.
(1) does anyone know if the Banjul registry is open during the xams break
(2) does anyone have a number or web page i could obtain the registry office's contact details
(3) What is the process for a registry wedding, my partner is there so what can they do in terms of organizations, paperwork, arranging dates etc
(4) how long do you have to wait until you get your marriage certificate or is it issued on the same day
(5) also, what if my partner is from another west african country but legally residing in gambia,what paperwork would he need to provide, some people say 3 years residensial permit others have told me just a recent one
(6) has anyone tried to get a print out of their calling card numbers dialled, i tried this and a customer advisor told me i needed a lawyer to that
arrhhhhhhhh, i, lost with so much to do
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kondorong
Gambia
4380 Posts |
Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 18:19:42
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| Talk to your partner in the Gambia. If she does not have the answers then, perhaps you should call off the "wedding". |
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bobbyh
United Kingdom
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Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 18:29:47
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he's a man, usless i tell you.
i would rather get the expereinces of people whom have been through the process...experience is the best teacher |
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LEMON TIME
Afghanistan
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Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 19:45:18
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| OH NO, DONT EVER CALL OFF THE WEDDIND GO GET YOUR MAN AND GIVE HIM A ONE WAY TICKET TO EUROPE. |
There is no god but Allah |
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kondorong
Gambia
4380 Posts |
Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 20:06:32
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Originally posted by bobbyh
he's a man, usless i tell you.
i would rather get the expereinces of people whom have been through the process...experience is the best teacher
The problem is if your partner cannot figure out how weddings are done in the Gambia, and he lives in the Gambia, then that speaks volumes.
Unfortunately experience is the worst teacher. Dont ask me why. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 21:15:32
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Perhaps other women who have married Africans in Gambia will be able to help you?
Can I ask how long you have known the man?
Which country is he from?
What is the age gap?
What religion are you and he?
Have your family met him?
How will you divide your time between uk and Gambia? Will your man travel to uk or is he working in Gambia?
If you are in Gambia at new year and you want a witness I will be there!!!!  
Good luck!
If you have any children I would recommend you make a prenuptual agreemant to make sure your children inherit what is due to them.
Sorry if that seems cynical!!!
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bobbyh
United Kingdom
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Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 21:22:22
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Thanks lemon time and Kondorong, i find it unfair for you to make such assumptions when you do not know the person. "The problem is if your partner cannot figure out how weddings are done in the Gambia, and he lives in the Gambia, then that speaks volumes"...it speaks no volume, thank you and we both know how weddings are done
If anyone has got married recently and can share their experiences, please do if you want to. It is a first time for us and we've heard such different stories. My partner has been to the registry and has got some of the details but as you know, what the officials tell you is not necessarily what will happen
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 21:34:46
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I'm interested to know what it costs for a civil ceremony. Also if someone is Muslim is a civil ceremony ok. Are they still considered married in the eyes of Islam or do you need 2 weddings!  |
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kondorong
Gambia
4380 Posts |
Posted - 11 Dec 2006 : 22:08:31
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Originally posted by bobbyh
Thanks lemon time and Kondorong, i find it unfair for you to make such assumptions when you do not know the person. "The problem is if your partner cannot figure out how weddings are done in the Gambia, and he lives in the Gambia, then that speaks volumes"...it speaks no volume, thank you and we both know how weddings are done
If anyone has got married recently and can share their experiences, please do if you want to. It is a first time for us and we've heard such different stories. My partner has been to the registry and has got some of the details but as you know, what the officials tell you is not necessarily what will happen
Better believe them. What the officials say is what is going to happen. Its that simple. |
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fee_sweetie
United Kingdom
127 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 16:14:04
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To my knowledge, The basic format of a forum was that people could ask a question and get the experiences and answers from other people......
Not get critisied and bullied by strangers ...if you dont know the answer why bother putting on comments that are down right rude and are obviously just meant to hurt and offend the original poster.... It's pathetic, you've all obviously got problems in your lives if you have to come on here and insult and bully people....
Bobbyh - my parnter and I have just started organising our wedding, i'll let you know what the conditions are when we get everything finalised.....
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"Religion is an insult to human dignity. Without it you'd have good people doing good things + evil people doing evil things but for good people to do evil things it takes religion"- Richard Dawkins |
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mbay
Germany
1007 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 16:27:13
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Your humour is some time good but get also serious some time such in like this!
This lady seems to have a tough case and you guys are joking with it.
What a jolting from you!
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Originally posted by LEMON TIME
OH NO, DONT EVER CALL OFF THE WEDDIND GO GET YOUR MAN AND GIVE HIM A ONE WAY TICKET TO EUROPE.
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kondorong
Gambia
4380 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 18:12:46
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Originally posted by fee_sweetie
To my knowledge, The basic format of a forum was that people could ask a question and get the experiences and answers from other people......
Not get critisied and bullied by strangers...if you dont know the answer why bother putting on comments that are down right rude and are obviously just meant to hurt and offend the original poster.... It's pathetic, you've all obviously got problems in your lives if you have to come on here and insult and bully people....
Bobbyh - my parnter and I have just started organising our wedding, i'll let you know what the conditions are when we get everything finalised.....
Fee
Your knowledge is not the same as every ones and going by the Oxford Dictionary, a forum is a gathering of many discussing issues. Its just simple to understand that in such settings, there will always be different opinions.
Bantaba is an open forum and you should be receptive to divergent views. This segment is not called a forum but BANTABA which means an open place where members are open to different ideas. I personally think your use of the words " rude" is out of place to others who share different views. Are you not guilty of the old saying of a pot calling a kettle black. Unless you are thesme person as Bobby, i do not see how raged you can be especially if those"different" views were not directed at you.
I dont think you should fight other people's battles for them unless you want to tell memebers that Bobby is incompetent and a dimwit to comprehend and sustain a relationship. However, i take comfort in the mandinka saying: KUMO MU NING SIRING LEH TI, NIYA BULA, AKA BAA LEH WAALING.
In the villages, thats why a BANATABA has no enclosure and is a thoroughfare.
I raised an important issue which is, if her partner who is from Gambia does not know how to organised a wedding, then who else should be a better adviser.
Personally, i dont want to preach to the choir. It raises a fundamental question about the relationship. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 18:42:38
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| Can anyone answer the question I posted? |
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fee_sweetie
United Kingdom
127 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 18:56:43
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Bantaba is an open forum and you should be receptive to divergent views. This segment is not called a forum but BANTABA which means an open place where members are open to different ideas.
How wrong you are because if you look at the top of the page, i think you will find that it says General forum......and yes it is to share people views and to discuss issues...but if u read my post carefully...im saying that i cant understand why if someone asks a QUESTION...why do u answer with something that is not relevant just because you dont know the answer.....and yet again rude is not out of place because you were sharing views that were not asked for....????!!!!!
Im not fighting other peoples battles....but felt i needed to write that comment as i too was going to post,as i wanted to hear about peoples marriage experiences in the Gambia...and I personally wouldn't of appreciated some of the rude comments that were posted for bobby.... |
"Religion is an insult to human dignity. Without it you'd have good people doing good things + evil people doing evil things but for good people to do evil things it takes religion"- Richard Dawkins |
Edited by - fee_sweetie on 14 Dec 2006 18:57:16 |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 19:07:09
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I think marriage to a Gambia is ok if you take into account Muslim culture. However can you ever really be sure that you arent being used for a passport to UK?
I have had 2 offers of marriage. One I have refused, one I am thinking about. I am 47, he is only 30ish. I have known him 4 years.
I like him alot,I think it would be fun to be married to him so he could come to UK.......but will he make a fool of me?!
Long distance relationships are difficult.
Age gap relationships are difficult.
Cross cultural relationships are difficult.
Cross religious relationships are difficult.
Step parent relationships are difficult.
The most successful marriages statistically are those between people from similar backgrounds and religion. Similar ages and similar values.
The more 'different' you are, statistically the more likely the marriage is to fail.
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serenata
Germany
1400 Posts |
Posted - 14 Dec 2006 : 19:14:44
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bobbyh, I understand that your partner is not a Gambian. My own marriage in Gambia was ages ago, I married a Gambian, and meanwhile many things might have changed. But doesn't he need a bachelor certificate?
gambiabev, maybe you could forget your standard checklist for a minute. These people decided to marry, and unless they have problems making a decision we shouldn't question it. |
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