What do you think about the african way of solving marriage issues -having the extended family (elder sisters, brothers etc.) interfearing in your marriage/relationship whenever there is a problem? What is good and bad about it? Is an elder person automatically wiser when it comes to marriage issues, so that they are capable of giving you the right advise? And do you, toubab woman, feel that you get as much support and understanding from your african family as your husband gets?
I personally think that it is ok to a certain extent for the family to be involved, but at the end of the day it is the husband/wife who need to solve the problems as they have to live with the decisions.It is after all THEIR marriage. What if the family decided that the couple should seperate but the couple really dont want to, then what,who do they listen to? What if they regret the decision? I have never (I thank god) had to ask the family for advice
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Posted - 22 May 2006 : 21:00:25
