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Serekundajock
United Kingdom
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 Posted - 03 Nov 2009 : 21:17:05
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My brother is getting married to a lovely Gambian lady and there are a few of us attending the wedding.
I am told that the wedding is about 4 days long.
My question is 'What usually happens during the 4 days and are we expected to take presents to the wedding?'
I/We have no idea what to expect.
Any help would be great.
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mansasulu
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Posted - 04 Nov 2009 : 18:22:35
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| 4 days long? The wedding is not 4 days long. The after party is 4 days long. Take loads of money. |
"...Verily, in the remembrance of Allâh do hearts find rest..." Sura Al-Rad (Chapter 13, Verse 28)
...Gambian by birth, Muslim by the grace of Allah... |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 04 Nov 2009 : 18:45:45
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Originally posted by mansasulu
4 days long? The wedding is not 4 days long. The after party is 4 days long. Take loads of money.
Excellent advice,as I am sure that you will wish to pay for some of the party  |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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kondorong
Gambia
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Posted - 04 Nov 2009 : 19:34:57
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Traditional wedding feastS last seven days. Each day for an activity. It ranges from laundry day to first meal day when the wife will cook and firnds of the husband come over for a meal. Its called BULU NENNO, KURO, ETC.
You are lucky you have 4 days now. |
“When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it--always.” |
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LEMON TIME
Afghanistan
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Posted - 04 Nov 2009 : 20:26:26
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| Is there any other The Gambia in w/Africa?all wedding I've attended the past 30 years is just (1 DAY)unless am not from the Gambia that you all are talking about. |
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mansasulu
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Posted - 04 Nov 2009 : 20:45:01
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| Lemon, times have unfortunately changed. |
"...Verily, in the remembrance of Allâh do hearts find rest..." Sura Al-Rad (Chapter 13, Verse 28)
...Gambian by birth, Muslim by the grace of Allah... |
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kaanibaa
United Kingdom
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Posted - 05 Nov 2009 : 15:13:58
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| I suppose you can do what you like , it being a free country and having the resources, one can party for as long as one desires.But of course various traditional norms require such varied activities and they depend to a great extent on the material wealth of the participants. the various ceremonies can be stringed as in a chain of days or discontinued/spread over a period of time with breathers , and I take it that some do these elaborate celebrations to show off their wealth and social standing.Please make sure that you do have loads of money because in almost all cases you will meet free loaders , as in many cases there are no invitations so any number of persons can be in attendance and some one has got to pay for this surely.I had a simple ceremony at a mosque and no bash , I must be of the poor group. |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 05 Nov 2009 : 15:54:04
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"I had a simple ceremony at a mosque and no bash , I must be of the poor group."
Not at all,marriage is a showing of your love for one another(or should be!) before your God ,relatives and friends and not an excuse for a party.
You did good |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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Serekundajock
United Kingdom
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Posted - 23 Nov 2009 : 23:04:57
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Thanks for the info. Couldnt respond because I have been moving house.
If there is a 4 day party I will only be there for one day.
Thank you all for your response |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 24 Nov 2009 : 18:03:13
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My advice is dont take money to the village that you can't afford to give away!
Little presents for children are always welcome.... paper, crayons etc...Clothes, shoes...
If you flash the cash it will be expected EVERY time you visit.  
Then there will be the baby naming....the Tobaski essentials etc....
I've not been to Gambia for two years...not because I cant afford the flight,,,, but because I cant afford to live up to everyones expecations of what I can give.
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inez
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Posted - 17 Feb 2010 : 14:47:52
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Originally posted by toubab1020
"I had a simple ceremony at a mosque and no bash , I must be of the poor group."
Not at all,marriage is a showing of your love for one another(or should be!) before your God ,relatives and friends and not an excuse for a party.
You did good
Of course wedding is the best excuse for a party, i got married in the Gambia in november and we planned for small and quiet wedding..but at the end it was a full day:justice, lunch, dj, mosque, dinner, cake, party until late night, around 100 guests. what a day! I loved it though, nice to meet all family memebers at once, friends and neighbours, all pretty clothes and good food, music and noise. Great! |
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kiwi
Sweden
662 Posts |
Posted - 17 Feb 2010 : 17:35:01
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Congratulations, Inez! I wish you both much love and happiness |
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inez
279 Posts |
Posted - 17 Feb 2010 : 17:47:00
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Originally posted by kiwi
Congratulations, Inez! I wish you both much love and happiness
Thank you Kiwi! |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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Posted - 17 Feb 2010 : 19:39:16
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| Congratulations to you both. I hope you will be very happy. |
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Sister Omega
United Kingdom
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Posted - 18 Feb 2010 : 20:41:15
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Congratulations Inez I hope you an your husband have a happy marriage!
When I got married to my husband in Gambia 3 years ago it was a full day event. We got married at Banjul Register Office then had our photo taken on Atlantic Beach, then on to Lunch at Laybatou's,and a reception at Bakoteh with family, and then on to a party at Terangas with entertainment by Asain Njie. Then 4 days upcountry spending time with the some more of our family.
Peace
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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Posted - 18 Feb 2010 : 23:43:28
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WOW quite a day!
Are you Gambian yourself sister, or just your husband?
Who pays for a Gambian wedding?
In England traditionally the brides parents pay for everything, but as weddings get more expensive the couple and the grooms parents and sometimes extended family and friends will contribute.
In the UK these days the average wedding apparently costs around £20,000. That is equivalent to the average persons annual salary.
Don't you think that is stupid?! Fancy getting into debt to get married!!! |
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