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lizzielou
United Kingdom
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 Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 13:09:08
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Hi everyone, my name is Elizabeth. Since returning from Gambia and trying very hard to get back there I thought i could join in your forum now and again as I have read some of the topics and they have given me a good understanding of differentaspects of the country.
This will help me when I go back to Patrick, I will have some knowledge of his Country.
Look forward to talking to you all x 
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dave
Ireland
89 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 16:02:30
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Welcome Elizabeth. Im certain you will learn a lot from the Bantaba. I have visited 14/15 times in the past 5 years and I am going back next Friday. In my opinion in order to learn about the country you have to experience it....oh yeah, and learn by your mistakes I hope you come to love the country as much as everyone on this forum.
I gather Patrick is now the love of your life???......He is not Gambian though???
quote]Originally posted by lizzielou
Hi everyone, my name is Elizabeth. Since returning from Gambia and trying very hard to get back there I thought i could join in your forum now and again as I have read some of the topics and they have given me a good understanding of differentaspects of the country.
This will help me when I go back to Patrick, I will have some knowledge of his Country.
Look forward to talking to you all x
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Edited by - dave on 11 Apr 2006 16:03:17 |
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lizzielou
United Kingdom
36 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 16:45:13
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Hi Dave, thanks for the welcome
Actually Patrick is Gambian, he is a christian and as such the children are given christian names, his name is Patrick Omar and I intend making a lot more visits. We talk every day thru texts and on the phone about 4 times a week.
Have a wonderful time, I am so envious of you going so soon, I have to wait until June due to my career.
Elizabeth x |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 20:23:16
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Elizabeth...do you mind me asking.....how long have you know Patrick?
How much time do you spend in Gambia? Do you trust him and his motives?
I don't intend to offend you. I have been in a similar situation, but due to lack of trust on my part it is never going to work for me. |
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kondorong
Gambia
4380 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 20:37:38
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Originally posted by gambiabev
Elizabeth...do you mind me asking.....how long have you know Patrick?
How much time do you spend in Gambia? Do you trust him and his motives?
I don't intend to offend you. I have been in a similar situation, but due to lack of trust on my part it is never going to work for me.
Gambiadev.
Dont poison the ladys mind. He that has not committed sin cast the first stone. I am not sying you are a sinner but to ask the type of questions above only breeds suspicision which is not healthy in a realtionship. We have to overlook some of our differences to stay in a relationship. There is never a perfect match. |
“When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they can seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall. Think of it--always.” |
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serenata
Germany
1400 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 20:51:02
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Welcome, Elizabeth, and welcome back, Gambiabev.
Gambiabev, again you ask too many personal questions. If Elizabeth wants to give us details about her relationship, she will do it. I agree with kondorong: Please don't try to poison her mind. |
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taalibeh
Gambia
336 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 21:03:40
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Gambiabev, do you think everyone has to fail in their relationship like you? Please let other people try thir interest. We Gambians do not like this kind of intrusive behaviour.
Let the lady learn by herself please. If have failed it might be due to your lack of consideration. You are exactly displaying the kind of repelsive attitute that leads to mistrust in a relationship that has perhaps led to your fail relationship.
Cool it mate please. |
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lizzielou
United Kingdom
36 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 21:50:26
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Hi Gambiabev, I take it you are not Gambian??? My relationship with atrick is as wonderful as I can ever expect and certainly better than anything I've ever experienced with an English or European man. He texts me and emails me every day and I have just received a parcel with beautiful presents in from him.
For those who have said back off, I thank you, we all have to learn life for ourselves and at the moment I am very happy with the way Patrick treats me (to say like a Queen isn't enough).
Also, he sent me a videa of the Kanalai becoming a man initiation with Jammeh there, so now I know what you poor guys have to go thru lol. xxx
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lizzielou
United Kingdom
36 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 22:16:01
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I forgot to ask you Gambiabev..what was yoursituation with your Gambian that made you so distrustful...did he want free passage over here?? Did he want all your money???? did he want you to build a better life for him in the Gambia??
Just interested xxx |
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taalibeh
Gambia
336 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 22:30:20
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lizzielou, please darling do not waste your time with this lady. Look after your relationship. Thank God you are happy.
Do not let any outside influence into your relationship. It is personal. |
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Babylon
Sweden
691 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 22:34:19
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Originally posted by kondorong
We have to overlook some of our differences to stay in a relationship. There is never a perfect match.
Thank you Kondorong for those wise words. I wish more people could think like that. That way many relationships and marriages could be rescued. Too many people think that there is that PERFECT partner for you somewhere, and that is just a fantasy. There is no such thing as the perfect match. That is why human nature is so adjustable... |
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lizzielou
United Kingdom
36 Posts |
Posted - 11 Apr 2006 : 23:11:11
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Thank you Taalibeh hunny, he is special to me and as Babylon (thanks babe) says, there is nothing on this earth that is perfect but I truly beleive I have found MY near perfect.
God Bless
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Sitasungo
77 Posts |
Posted - 12 Apr 2006 : 00:16:57
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Hi you can all now see the type of person Gambiabev is?
No wonder her relationship went no where.I have said it over and over some people think Africa is cheap sex heaven.No way we are human beings and no matter what you are or have,if you come to us with clean heart,we treat you like queen and a queen you shall be with us.But if you test us,you find us salty.
lizzielu, I am happy you are happy with your man.Many people have come to the Gambia and married to Gambians and still they have very very Happy marriages blessed with childreen.
My Brother has a white wife and she is more than both European and African with three childreen who speach both their mother and Father tongue.
Peace be with you and your love.With clean heart, God will guide you with no regrets.Have fun
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 12 Apr 2006 : 08:41:48
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I saw a man from Senegal for 3 years off and on. He has never treated me badly. But I have finished it because I find it difficult to trust his motives. That is MY problem.
A relationship is difficult enough in the same country and culture. It becomes very difficult when there is distance involved and long separations. Also lots of cultural differences...I could go on.....
A good illustration of cultural difference is how Gambians find my questions rude...... In UK I would ask quite personal questions and NOT receive the replies I received here. It was just a curious question. I am a curious person!
I am very happy for anyone that can make the Gambia/English connection work. But go in with eyes wide open.
MANY marriages DONT work. The man wants a visa, or your money, or the kudos of a western wife.
Other people have mentioned if there is an age gap aswell, what about the issue of children. MOST Gambian men WILL want to have children.
I hope it works for you Elizabeth, I really do. |
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bamba
Sweden
401 Posts |
Posted - 12 Apr 2006 : 09:17:30
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| Gambiabev, since you, every now and then, publicise your problematic relationships with men from continent to continent, it has now become a public matter. Warranted by your own publicity, I would therefore like to ask, how many men have you met in Gambia? You depict a woman with profound relationship problems. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
3091 Posts |
Posted - 12 Apr 2006 : 09:28:52
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Profound relationship problems???????? Continent to continent???????
I was married and with an english man for a total of 26 years. I divorced him because he was an alcoholic. I have two daughters, a mother, a father,a grandmother and a brother that I love dearly. I am still friends with my ex-husband.
I have had one relationship in Gambia with a seneglese man. I have ended that.I have close friendships with several Gambian men and women. I love them like brothers and sisters.
In the uk I have several close female and male friends in reality and online.
Bamba, I hope that answers your questions about me. I try to be open and honest.
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