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jambo
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 Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 10:20:55
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http://www.hermes-press.com/socint4.htm please visit this website.
Turks mentioned in a previos posting, Have you ever heard of social intelligence, i hadn't but looked it up. in case anyone is wondering and is interested please visit the web page.
homework assignment will follow laters 
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turk
USA
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Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 11:54:48
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_intelligence
3 Guys walking to the soccer field. 2 athletics, 1 is fat. You jambo. You are the fat one. 2 athletics guys kind of making fun of you because you are not athletic and can't be as good as them. They are mocking you. They teasing you. What do you do?
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diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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jambo
3300 Posts |
Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 12:34:56
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prove them wrong, i can still win something, maybe not in their field but can win something. People who judge by looks are shallow and insecure. 
ME FAT on no, i going on a diet |
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Alhassan
Sweden
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Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 15:24:06
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Turk,
I have heard of social compitence but not social intelligence.
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jambo
3300 Posts |
Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 16:26:51
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alhassan, follow the link it is very imformative,
TURKS, i am loving your postings |
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turk
USA
3356 Posts |
Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 17:47:23
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prove them wrong, i can still win something, maybe not in their field but can win something. People who judge by looks are shallow and insecure.
Jambo you are close. But social intelligence it is not about what to do about winning in soccer in this case, it is about how you interact with others and communicate and create win win situation for everyone.
In our example you would say 'f you, i don't need your approval'. Or you would go lose some weight. Anyway, the answer is how you deal with this situation and you are the winner. One author give following example.
The fat boy says: Hey guys, you guys are really good in soccer. I am not that good, but I am good other things. Show me anything I can draw.
Athletic guys are shocked with fat boys' sincerity. Fat boy continues. "I really like to improve my soccer skills and be as good as you guys one day".
Athletic boys say: Hey, come join us. Maybe we can show you one thing or other.
Fat boy shown the great social intelligence here and turn something potentially confrontation to a positive things for himself. He may still suck in soccer but he made two bullies to be his friend. Win Win situation.
p.s. this was taken from a book about social intelligence.
Social intelligence was a concept that was discussed after 'emotional intelligence'. This is about you know some guys everyone likes and hang out.
Alhassan
I am not sure about social compitence, but sounds like it may be similar to it. |
diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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jambo
3300 Posts |
Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 18:17:14
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| this is about difusing the situation before it gets out of hand, i have heard of this, but did not know it was called this. |
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jammin
Jamaica
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Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 18:30:00
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I had a fair idea of what social intelligence meant, and Turks example did explain it quite well.
I smiled because of the ever expanding terms and phrases that Social scientist and Anthropologist have decided to deluge us with, in an attempt, i suppose, to expose our shortcomings as intellectuals.
Somehow i thought they was once a word for that, TACT
So now as we observe social engineering in action, government have got to employ social intelligence with its relationship with the electorate(or does the intelligence thing limits itself to people). |
Like a colossus He doth bestride the Narrow World |
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kisley
United Kingdom
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Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 19:11:42
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| really Turk? bullies would immediatly be taken aback and "shocked" by "overweight boy's sincerity"......i dont know where you have unearthed this example, but the person who wrote this has obviously spent most of his time sheltered from real life or lived most of his/her life in middle class surburbia. Believe me as a person who grew up on a "council estate", if i was to say "hey guys i would really like to improve my soccer skills", they would turn around and say "p*** off fatty, lose some weight first". You cant reason with bullies... this isnt "little house on the prairie". Come on, who wants bullies as friends? Sounds like "overweight boy" is taking the easy way out..... . "ass licking people " and "stroking peoples egos" cos you cant handle name calling, or because these people are popular(needs to fit in) is a "LOSE LOSE" situation. |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 19:28:42
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Dear, Oh Dear.....what a wind up topic this is,
NO COMMENT from me except the first few words in this posting of course,am I joining in Nah!! |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 19:35:43
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| Social interaction is a very important skill. I teach autistic children and they dont 'get' social interaction. I have to teach them HOW to be social, HOW to interact, they need it spelling out to them. |
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turk
USA
3356 Posts |
Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 22:06:07
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kisley
Thanks for demostrating us what social intelligence not.
gambiabev
According to some search people in IT field are lacking social intelligence. So are 'nerds' good in science/maths but are lacking social intelligence. Genious Albert Eistein was autistic. Anyway, emotional/social intelligence show us how diverse human being is. Imagine, Mozart may have been considered dummy when tested with math while mastering in music.
Anyway
http://www.danielgoleman.info is the author I read the book. It was quite interesting. |
diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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Posted - 01 Oct 2007 : 23:46:09
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Turk
You are exactly right.
High intelligence is sometimes located to a specific thing: computing, trains, history...whatever. These 'nerds' are high functioning autistics known as aspergers ......
They are extremely clever in a very limited field. Take them out of their comfort zone and they cant function.
Also often loners because, sadly , they dont have a clue how the other half thinks and functions and flirting is totally beyond them.  |
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jambo
3300 Posts |
Posted - 02 Oct 2007 : 10:32:42
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| the art of conversation is a wonderful thing, social skills are important, it is one of the reasons I am keen on any student i support in Gambia visiting other places outside of their village, joing guides, red cross or after school activites. this is not about academic qualifications they can be learnt from a book, but social skills are aquired and you can be judged by them. MANNERS ARE IMPORTANT |
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kisley
United Kingdom
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Posted - 11 Oct 2007 : 13:43:26
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Originally posted by toubab1020
Dear, Oh Dear.....what a wind up topic this is,
NO COMMENT from me except the first few words in this posting of course,am I joining in Nah!!
 spoilsport!!!!! |
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kisley
United Kingdom
214 Posts |
Posted - 11 Oct 2007 : 13:55:02
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Originally posted by turk
kisley
Thanks for demostrating us what social intelligence not.
Turk
thanks for demonstrating to us the meaning of "pompous" |
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