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snuggels
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 Posted - 24 Mar 2009 : 23:38:36
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A thread taken from another forum and some of the replies.
Interesting.
This may seem like another cliché topic which will I expect attract very cliché comments, but I couldn’t help myself: I had to post this are Gambian men really worth our while?!
I mean, what do our parents secretly wish for our futures (well more for us girls)? We marry wealthy and very popular influential Gambian men! That’s all fine and dandy till it comes to the marital home side! Does your popular influential and wealthy Gambian husband do right by you??? I mean seriously are we really happy at home, when we go to sleep and when we wake up in the morning! I mean god help you, and you marry a man that takes pride in being polygamous!
Sister you’re in for a long and tough ride especially if you've been a totally devoted wife with quality standards then u really and truly are f----d! if your the first wife then u r definitely lamb to the slaughter...........not to mention the crazy in-laws from hell will want you.......how should I put this.........out of the picture! I mean look at me.........I’m 24..........independent and trying to climb the social ladder and sail the sea's of success! I wanna get married...but when I look at what our generation has produced in terms of eligible men..........I honestly don’t see any! It’s a shame that Gambian men are still stereotyped! They either let you down as the bread winner of the family, the role model for the kids or the lover in the bedroom! These three main things not 1 can a Gambian man can score 10/10! Shame isn’t it! Well if I can get good reasons why Gambian men are worth our while perhaps I’ll take the offer waiting for me and completely change the way we Gambian women portray Gambian men!
THAAAANNKKK YOU gal I love I loooooovvveee you. ahhhhhhh ahhhh ahhh men am I so excited. U doesn’t know how u has made me feel.
Finally I get to meet someone who bears the same complaint as I do. I left Gambia and for 7 years I was away I held it in high esteem. Finally 2 yrs back I come back home and what to I see. Fools (pardon me but I just need to say it) they don’t deserve to be called men. Here is what they think.. That women are the inferior, cheap, *****s that are more of a beacon of sex and an employee in the house... a slave for that matter... than a wife.
In the Gambia, marriages are only carried out by men because they want to have sex, children and need their homes to be attended to. you find that women are beaten by their hucys if food is not ready on time, if they have worked too hard to please them and are too tired for sex, and if they are barren. Childless mothers get all the blame from the in-laws, her husband and on lookers. CANT IT BE BECAUSE THE MAN IS AINT ERRECTIN ENOUGH, OR MAYBE HE IS THE PROBLEM but oh no, it’s always that woman.
Gambian men as far as I know will only marry you and dump you to their family. You feels like your married to the mom or family not him. Half of the time he's with his friends drinking ataya and half the time he's working. You only sees him at night whereyou waits to do ya duties as a "wife". How many of our men make us exhilarated to be pregnant??? None. How many of our men give us the whole attention that we need. How many of our men take us for walks holding our hands telling every one this is ma wify? How many men are ready to spend at least valuable time with our children? How many of our men will not smoke tie or will spend at least a year without one slap on our face?? which Gambian dude, Muslim for that matter will not use Islam just so they can justify their getting married to a second, third, fourth 6 times a younger wife?? What an insult. For all these questions, I say none... not our present generation. The eligible ones are married and the beautiful ones are not yet born.
Am sorry am not critiquing big time our dudes.. Am jus saying what I feel? A WOMAN, a wife for that matter is the one that you share everything with. The other sides of you. the one you love and cherish. The one that cooks your food, gives you the sex they need and the children to bear their name all with love. She is the one that even with out a child... you will always love and cant live without. She is the one you value and respect. The one you spends half your time with and the other half to the world... that’s a wife. Not a punching bag, or an available *****, or a "pumping bag" if u know what I mean. I would have loved to get married to a Gambia but now am thinking IS IT WORTH IT????????
gal friend if u gets any good reasons why Gambian men are worth our while, let me know coz I’ve searched and I’ve failed to find.
I’ve never been dumped in my life... I’ve had wonderful relationships with both Gambians and non Gambians. Am looking at this from my point of view as a lady. No matter how good our men are, in our generation, they all have the same above mentality in one way or the other... am sorry
Friend I’ve read that article you wrote about our men not being worth our while and gal I just love that you brought that up. Baby gal you has made my day big time and is glad someone has my character at heart. When I was in the Gambia... I completely got to hate marriage for the genuine reasons you mentioned. I wish I had met you before I left the Gambia... am back in Uganda. I’ve been here for a month now. But hey please be my friend. We need to meet some day and share our ideas on life. You never knows what effect that may have on our career and our future. I love you gal... keep it up
So that put me off completely! Besides when it comes 2 sex most Gambians men aren’t.........worth the effort! Not one of them is romantic, practices safe sex.....and is gentle! Basically your left empty after 1 round of sex! Not great huh! Sex I believe should be enjoyed by both parties and should be memorable and fun!
Gambian men.......... How many Gambian men does you know that make love!? Or just F--K! Very few I guess! I’m very worldly.........I’ve experienced things, seen things........and have become things........but I’ve always respected myself and the situations presented to me!
I do whatever I feel is right!
Some of us have horror stories about our first times others say theirs was alright and others don’t know the difference! Egos, hierachy, social status, money, wealth...are mainly what Gambian men live and die for!
It’s also affected our present generation unfortunately! Funnily enough Gambian guys of our generation aren’t too keen on marrying Gambian women either! they think were 2 uncivilized, not bred well, that were leeches...and aint good in da bed.........and boring!
Basically were lifeless! Nice huh! Well I’m half Jamaican, half Guyanese and half Gambian! I’m a mix and blend! I most definitely have life! Believe me! unfortunately I feel that I’m 2 good 4 any Gambian man...and I haven’t quite met my ,match yet!
I’m young...but not very young! I love life and hope 2 die happy. Knowing that I lived out ma life to the max and shared it with a caring loving, adoring and faithful man whether he be non-Gambian or Gambian!
gal..........like you said at the mo Gambian men aren’t really worth our while! FOR NOW......
We can’t always concentrate on the negative sides of a Gambian man's personality! Unfortunately Gambian men rarely tend to show their positive attributes! I have a lot of male Gambian relatives......some of them are inspirations others well.....words need not describe them! The same could be said for female Gambians as well! You have the good, the bad and the ugly! That’s life like you said kebba! and maybe its true that a few bad experiences with Gambian men has put me off........however it did have a lasting effect as I have no intentions of rekindling any romance with a Gambian man ever! Shame as its kind of befitting that a Gambian girl friend with and marry a Gambian man! Aren’t life a ****.........you just can’t have everything you desire! But good response kebab
Heheheee! Maybe I haven’t found the one yet........I still have hope of finding the one! Believe me! When I do.........I’ll make sure I keep you posted! I can’t just rubbish all Gambian men as fools.......got to give em a chance huh!
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turk
USA
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Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 02:49:30
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| The percentage of gambian men not worth is 1 percent less or more than british, mexican or any other nation. |
diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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snuggels
960 Posts |
Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 06:41:22
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| Ummm Interesting statistic> Where did it come from? or is that just your opinion |
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snuggels
960 Posts |
Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 06:53:50
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| Lets hear from the ladies. |
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turk
USA
3356 Posts |
Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 09:43:04
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Snuggle, you don't get my point. How about the following question.
LADIES, IS SNUGGELS WORTH IT?
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diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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snuggels
960 Posts |
Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 10:00:09
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I think the thread is a ligitmate thread open for discussion.
OK if I dont get your point please explain.
I think it was a strait forward question. Its up to you if you wish to answer it. No need to go into ATTACK mode it doesnt realy help or add to the debate |
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snuggels
960 Posts |
Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 10:08:54
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| SO again I say LETS HERE FROM THE LADIES |
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afonso
Gambia
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Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 14:01:30
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| Snuggels, I believe you are the greatest liar on this site.Where did you get these facts from.You failed to take into account the tradition and culture of gambians in many of your futile points.Do you know how many relationships in the Gambia start and what is the catch in them? Did you make a through research on relationships across the country? I believe you might be diaappointed that Gambians are Gambians and will never adapt a western lifestyle of moving around with our wives hand in hand in the streets and looking *****ic. Love is far different from that nonsense many of our falilieas and cultures abhor such actions. We are Gambians and we will act in the most appropriate way. by the way how many divorces did you record for 2008? and again how many suicide or murder cases relate to infidelty in marriages did you record> Please leave us alone, we are happy with the way we behave with our spouses. |
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Santanfara
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Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 14:24:46
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Afonso, I am of the opinion that, Snuggle may have had a bad experience with a Gambian man. That disappointment usually result in generalise fire storming.
Last night i went to pick up a friend from East Midlands airport. And interestingly, an English man came out ahead of the group. His first words were, "if you are thinking about travelling to the Gambia, don't even think about it". I among some few Gambian in the waiting area were surprised.
A Bakau man among us, approached the man and challenge him to explain hs comments. The man try to walk away, then a semi-fracas ensued. The Bakau man went outside with him and they nearly fight but then the man later withdraw his generalise comments. another man travelling from the Gambia express his holiday delight.
As human, our individual sad episoud sometimes translate in blancket attacks.
Snuggle i hope should treat her situation if indeed she had a bad and terrible experience with a certain Gambian man and address that issue individualy. She is within her rights to express her disappointment with a given Gambian man, but not all Gambian men since she may have known only a handful of Gambian men.
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afonso
Gambia
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Posted - 25 Mar 2009 : 16:32:00
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| satamfara, it really hurts if stoogies try to take my dear Gambia to ransom on stupid irrelevant issues. She has her own right of complaining but she should be honest with her analysis taking into account how she started her relationship and what was her goal.I quite often go for a walk, dinner at friend's houses with my wife or often take the whole family to the beach on sundays at least to overcome the surging daily stress and other probelms.Let her go to dream park and see how some families act there.Above Gambians are hard workers and one has to go the extra mile to make ends meet,so how can all the men sit in their houses gossipping and culturally women and men both have their sessions with friends and peers espevially their social gatherings like "turr, tek, and ndey dickay programs. Men never go to such gatherings as its intended for our wives and female folk to socialise.I advise snugell to make a deep research in Gambian relationships before jumping to such fake conclusions and I would be very happy if she tells me where she comes from> i rest my case |
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LEMON TIME
Afghanistan
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Posted - 26 Mar 2009 : 00:33:58
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| SNUGGELS,i bet you never met your Gambian Dad and ya mum did told you lots of fake stories about him.Have you ever heard of anger management please make an appointment before its too late for you as you don't want to have a heart attack at 24years.I really feel sorry for you because i for one would not want to come anywhere near you knowing that you've been with half of all men.Ask yourself why you are single may be the problem is your childhood not having a father or brothers around.Are you a lesbian or something?How do you expect a Gambian man to make love to you?you don't make love to a (Chaka) protitute you f*** them. |
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Bodwick
United Kingdom
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Posted - 26 Mar 2009 : 02:50:20
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Hey Lemon Head who do you think you are?
You need to learn a few manners you syphilitic scum bag. Snuggles posted a few lines from another forum and you think that gives you the right to mouth off with your illiterate ramble. How about I throw a few insults at your mother and your unknown father or your flaccid dick that’s incapable of fathering anything.
Turks the only near accurate poster with his 1% comment. In the UK the population runs about 55,000,000 take 1% = 550,000 and that’s just about the total male population of Gambia up for a wife or five.
In the UK 1% may be lazy, worthless etc but that 1% in actual numbers of people equals 99% of Gambian men.
An awful lot of anti Jammeh feeling on this site and yet he manages more work than the thousands that sit around complaining and drinking tea all day.
Looks like Snuggles hit a raw nerve.
Get out your miswak tonight and beat your wives. That will make you feel better… |
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Edited by - Bodwick on 26 Mar 2009 02:51:23 |
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turk
USA
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Posted - 26 Mar 2009 : 04:20:28
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Ahem. While statistics are open to different interpretation. Let me clarify. According to UN statistical data
british man 51 % not worth it, 49 % worth it.
Mexican man 51 % not worth it, 49 % worth it. Studies suggest, recent financial crisis caused devaluation on men.
Other nations avarage was 50-50.
Due to recent competition for Gambian men by british women, the Gambian men's worthness increased to 51 % which supports my earlier error margin.
Scientific searches find that the worth of Turkish men is the only exception which 'worth it rate' goes up to 79 %.
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diaspora! Too many Chiefs and Very Few Indians.
Halifa Salah: PDOIS is however realistic. It is fully aware that the Gambian voters are yet to reach a level of political consciousness that they rely on to vote on the basis of Principles, policies and programmes and practices. |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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Posted - 26 Mar 2009 : 07:50:57
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Statistics can be used to prove or disprove anything turk! 
The position of Gambian women seems quite weak to me. They do all the work, but have very little say in anything. Their husbands can take extra wives and make big decisions without any consultation with his wives.
I have met many Gambian men who sadly ALL think they are superior to women! 
They disappear for hours without telling their wives where they are. It's none of her business!
I find it hard to understand how a man with very little education, no job and no money can consider himself superior to a women who works all hours to keep her family fed and clothed.
Where does this superiority complex come from?!
Most women just want a faithful, loyal, caring man who will be supportive through good and bad times. When a women has young children the man needs to be earning and working hard to support them. Companionship is a very important part of any good relationship. Sex is important, but the other things have to be right too.
Most Gambian men I have met arent loyal and dont work hard. Of course some are different to that, but when I go to the villages the women are doing all the work. Thats perhaps fine if the man has a paid job and is working hard out of the home, but if all he is doing is making tea and lazing around with his mates...well I wouldnt put up with that!!!! |
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gambiabev
United Kingdom
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Posted - 26 Mar 2009 : 07:54:14
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Lemon time.
You are very rude and offensive to snuggels.
I dont think she has done anything to deserve this posting and think you should take it off the site.
The replies (which she has merely copied)obviously hit a raw nerve! |
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kayjatta
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Posted - 26 Mar 2009 : 08:31:36
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In business it is often said that if you have one dissatisfied customer (s)he on average tells ten others about his/her experience. A satisfied customer, however, on average tells only one other person. We all tends to talk more about the negative than the positive, perhaps the media is a living prove of that. So I can understand where Snuggels might be coming from.
Besides there is a positive side to all criticisms. Certainly, Gambian men, including my humble self are not angels (I have committed my own relationship dissaaters), so there must be some room for improvement. I know for certain that gambian men are accustomed to wielding far too uneven power over women ... |
Edited by - kayjatta on 26 Mar 2009 08:33:23 |
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