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toubab1020
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 Posted - 28 May 2012 : 15:05:45
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Just found this today,I really enjoyed reading this piece from Yunus Saliu,it represents a mans point view that he is not ashamed to express with reasoned argument,what do you think ? personally I would be very interested an any comments that the ladies who visit bantaba and post occasionally think about the views expressed in the article, are they sexist?,disgusting?,not to be talked about ?not the normal thoughts of men? or whatever:
http://observer.gm/africa/gambia/article/cleavage-parade
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Cleavage parade
Africa » Gambia
Friday, May 18, 2012
One of the most common fashions among the ladies now is the cleavage parade. Some people can call it ‘breasts exhibition’ while others will call it ‘breasts out’ but all I know is ‘breast exposure.’ Our ladies have systematically succeeded in exposing their breasts slightly or widely for others especially the opposite sex to browse free of charge.
It is fashion trend but on reverse it is nothing but body advertisement and exhibition of body nitty-gritty. What they take to be fashion, gradually, is becoming indecent exposure as you will on daily basis see in the streets, at home, public places even in the offices as ladies dress to kill and expose their breasts for other to see.
It is obvious that men without touch can tell you the size or number of kilo of what appears before him. Men can quickly tell that what is before him is flabby, pointed or watery all in the name of free browsing. It is not their fault but fashion is responsible for this.
Cleavage exposure is like virus as most girls are already affected by this. They have made it latest style by wearing what will reveal their cleavage. This is not limited to girls and ladies but even the housewives as they are now using every public event as a ticket or entry visa to trick and capture the attention of men and as to display their infidelities. Men and young boys are always mesmerized and hypnotize when they see women cleavage with irrespective of the boobs size and complexion.
It is a free world; still we need to know if most of these ladies are shopping for boy or men friends hence they want to escape from loneliness. Men enjoying browsing women’s cleavages on street or wherever they see one but will never want their girlfriends or sisters to be browsed by other men.
Secondly, married men still enjoying focus on women’s cleavages but hates seeing other men glancing through their wives boobs. What a world? It shows how selfish men are and the kindness of women.
Sincerely, are women looking for boyfriends with this self advertisement which they think it is their body and property that they can do whatever they like with?In other way round are they trying to oppress or test men sexuality strength?
Housewives are not helping things at all as you can see some of them wearing what is meant for their grandchildren. Even women in 60s nowadays prefer to dress in skirts, jean trousers with a v-shape top just to show what they are having on their chests.
Why, just because those types of dresses make them feel ten years younger and attractive to guys. It is obvious that no man or woman would like to look older than his or her age. Still when you are older than ….. you give it to your child.
Anyway, in Africa when one try to correct others fashion mistakes, the reply is always ‘it is okay, that is how they want it or that is the latest in town.’ The truth is that some women do not consider age, fitness or decency before they put on dress.
If Lovelines is to say the truth, a decent ladies especially married one should not be seen wearing what a teenager should wear like we can see in our houses, offices and market places. Decent ladies should learn how to dress according to their ages especially when you are a mother having children looking up to you.
Children who take you to be their role model or mentor, you should not then be seen wearing revealing styles that tend to display some vital parts of your body. It is meant for your partner to see and feel not for other men outside to see and feel.
Some caliber of women is not to be seen in hippy, provocative clothes meant for sweet-sixteen. However, there is nothing bad if you reveal your cleavage lightly but it should not be overzealous to an extent that any man that see you will scream for space and attention as they will continue murmuring, saying ‘hmm, sweet boobs, I like it.’ One thing is that some women feel that there is nothing bad in it since the nipples are cover while the rest of the breasts are on display.
Anyway I adore and love the confidence in women in showing the boobs for us men to have free browsing but they should remember that they are loosing respect gradually. This is because men always discuss it.
Women, I love your dressing and your revealing cleavage, I want to look and see it over and over but believe me honestly most of you need a big check up! A big check up of what, your dressing, choice, and your six senses of belonging because some of you are looking seductive and as well a temple of devil for men. This is one of the reasons some men outside says ‘that lady, I am through with her, nothing there.’
Nothing spoils, sometimes you will see the breasts out but the face is dull, ugly and not cheerful. Well, women always complained of been abused but not thinking of harassing men. It is time for us to stop being copycat but embrace our custom and traditional way of dressing.
Author: Yunus Saliu
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"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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MeMe
United Kingdom
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Posted - 30 May 2012 : 14:50:22
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OK, T1020 ... took me ages to work up any enthusiasm to read the article in the first place ... don't know about anyone else but a giant wedge of text like that seems to put me off! Not to mention the poor grammar,etc which doesn't make for pleasant reading ... anyhoo ....
Firstly, yes it is rather sexist but then it is written by a man LOL! Secondly, can I just say that I (a female, by the way!) don't hold with using my 'assets' in the name of fashion/to get ahead at work/to attract male attention/show how confident I am/or any of the other reasons assumed by the author and don't feel comfortable wearing low-cut tops no matter what the ocassion. That said, it is a free world and if other ladies (and I mean those above the age of 18!) feel differently then it's their choice. Just as wearing a hoodie doesn't make you a would-be criminal, wearing a low-cut top doesn't make you a would-be slut!
Truthfully, I actually spent some time wondering if the Gambia was different to other African countries in that ladies breasts are historically not viewed in a sexual manner (or am I wrong here?!).
Therefore, if I were to be pointing any fingers it would be towards the marketing industry and their 'sex sells' culture which fills advertising world wide. Not forgetting the current music industry where scantily clad women are 'used' as props in music videos and the likes of Rihanna, Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, along with a great number of today's 'celebrities' who seem to rely on the less is more style of dressing to sell their photos, music, etc.
Finally, if indeed the author wants Gambian ladies to return to a more traditional style of dress then I would hope that all those 'gangsta wannabes' you see wandering around there should also be encouraged to swap their baggy designer jeans and over the top shirts for a fataro, jalabe or shabado. |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 30 May 2012 : 17:38:26
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MeMe,Thanks for that,I posted this in full because I thought that many bantaba readers,would not be at all interested in even clicking on a posted link,bet that was your feeling,I also posted it from a point of view of a man actually expressing his likes in a woman,very, very rare these days for a man to actually put in print what he finds attractive in a woman I have never known that before, OK blokes do discuss woman's attributes amongst themselves but to publish an actual article.
Your clothing comments I agree with the stuff that is marketed everywhere today is mostly horrendous,its as though pride in how you dress has disappeared  and it's all about having the latest stuff!!.
Your words, "African countries in that ladies breasts are historically not viewed in a sexual manner (or am I wrong here?!). " not being African I could not possibly comment 
To Date 106 reads and only you have had the courage and actually post,good on you MeMe. |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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MeMe
United Kingdom
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Posted - 31 May 2012 : 11:37:36
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No worries, T! Hopefully someone in the 106 viewing category is African and will be able to clarify my query LOL   |
It is better to die standing than to live on your knees - Ernesto Guevara de la Serna |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 31 May 2012 : 11:50:00
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There maybe,but will they express their own opinion ? who knows 
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Originally posted by MeMe
No worries, T! Hopefully someone in the 106 viewing category is African and will be able to clarify my query LOL
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"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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Edited by - toubab1020 on 31 May 2012 11:51:35 |
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