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snuggels
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 Posted - 06 Jul 2011 : 21:26:47
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FORGET THE POLITICS MAKE LOVE NOT WAR
Nothing as much fun as sex can be good for you, surely? In fact, though it's probably the last thing on your mind when you're doing it, intercourse offers a whole range of overlooked health benefits.
As well as satisfying your desires (when done properly) sex can do wonders for both your physical and psychological wellbeing.
So next time he tells you he's not in the mood, point him towards the following list of reasons why a session between the sheets is the perfect pick-me-up.
Exercise should be fun, and what could be more fun than a good old roll in the hay? It may not burn as many calories as an hour on the treadmill or 50 lengths in the pool, but - when done vigorously enough - sex still gives you a worthwhile cardio workout. It may sound hard to believe (or maybe not, depending on your level of experience), but sex can burn off up to 150 calories every half hour. So if you are having sex four times a week for around 30 minutes, that's an extra 600 calories you're better off without. If you go at it for longer than this - even better!
"Not tonight darling, I've got a headache." How many times have we heard this old cliche (in books, on film and, unfortunately, in real life)? Well, time to put this particular excuse, quite literally, to bed. Studies show that reaching orgasm is a natural, powerful painkiller. As you approach and then achieve The Big O, production of a chemical called oxytocin surges within your body. Oxytocin is known to reduce all sorts of general pain, including, of course, headaches.
The fact that having sex regularly makes people calm, relaxed and less prone to stress won't come as a revelation to many. This indicates that a person is in a happy, loving relationship and has many reasons to be cheerful. But the role of intercourse as a powerful stress-reliever is also backed up by recent research. One study carried out in Scotland found that participants who were more sexually active were far better at dealing with controlled, stressful situations than those who abstained.
Sleep deprivation can have a devastating impact on our wellbeing, with sufferers at an increased risk of conditions ranging from stress and depression to poor performance at work and disruption to family life. To combat insomnia, experts recommend, among other things, cutting out alcohol and caffeine, watching less TV and taking a bath before bed. Now it's time to add sex to that list. We know that it makes men fall asleep (almost instantly), but research also suggests that the oxytocin we mentioned earlier that is released during intercourse acts as a sedative for all of us. Also - and this isn't rocket science - rigorous sex simply wears us out.
Sex isn't just good, it is also good for you. According to scientists, having sex at least once or twice a week increases production of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which protects the body from infections like the common cold and flu. And while hitting the sack with your partner can leave you feeling a bit dishevelled, it can actually improve the way you look by boosting levels of oestrogen, which is known to add strength and texture to hair and skin.
The very thought of sex with someone you are attracted to or in love with is enough to send your heart rate through the roof, so imagine the benefits on offer to your ticker when you are actually in a healthy sexual relationship. A study carried out at Queen's University in Belfast found that sex three times a week is enough to halve the risk of heart attack or stroke. In women, sex increases production of oestrogen, which is known to protect us from heart disease. And there is good news for your man too - another study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health claims that sex two or more times a week reduces the risk of fatal heart attack, again by 50%, when compared with those men who do it less than once a month.
Have you ever been more aware of your body than when in a happy, healthy, physical relationship? There is no greater incentive to stay in shape than spending a lot of time naked in the presence of someone who makes you go all weak at the knees, and this constant awareness of your body image has obvious benefits. You're more likely to exercise, eat well and adopt a strict beauty regime, such as looking after your hair (on various parts of your body), skin and nails. And if you look better, you feel better, thus giving your confidence a considerable boost.
Sex doesn't just make you feel younger - research shows it can actually hold back the ageing process. When you reach orgasm, the body secretes DHEA, a hormone which is known to improve the health of the immune system, boost cognitive function, aid tissue repair and keep skin looking and feeling healthy. DHEA also encourages the production of other hormones like oestrogen, which as we know can prolong life by improving cardiovascular health. And, as we have already seen, sex is a form of exercise - something we should all be doing regularly to stay looking and feeling younger.
Kegel exercises, named after Dr Arnold Kegel, involve the contraction and then relaxation of muscles that make up part of the pelvic floor. Experts recommend that all women practise these daily to prepare them for the stresses of the later stages of pregnancy and to treat stress urinary incontinence. To put it more bluntly - they stop you from having a little accident. However, the problem with pelvic floor exercises is that, in order for them to be effective, you need to keep doing them every day for the rest of your life and it can take months before you notice any difference. Fortunately, there is another way to strengthen and tone this part of your core. You won't realise it, but you are actually performing Kegels while having sex, and the stronger they are the higher your pleasure levels.
There is more to this theory than the fact that satisfying sex can put a great big smile on your face. A 2002 study of almost 300 women by an American psychologist found that sexually active participants who were not using condoms as their contraceptive were less likely to suffer from depression than those who did. The experts involved believe that the hormone prostaglandin, which is only found in semen, may be absorbed into the female body, where it helps to regulate her hormones and thus reduce the risk of mental illness.
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snuggels
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Posted - 08 Jul 2011 : 09:34:41
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LESSON 2
10 things he’s thinking when you’re naked
Find out what he really thinks when you're naked. You might be surprised…
Wow, her skin feels so soft
It's a cliché for a reason - your skin does feel like satin to him. A man's skin is around 20% thicker than a woman's, so even if you think your skin feels rough, to him it's like creamy silk. Men tend to have more oily skin than women too - so when his hand glides across your body, it doesn't get stuck, adding to that super-smooth sensation.
Lay off the lotions and potions and he's far more likely to want to nuzzle curvy corner of your body. "Covering up your natural smell with excessive washing and perfuming won't do you any favours in the bedroom," says relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr, (drpam.co.uk). "Your natural pheromones are like an aphrodisiac to him, so why try to get rid of them? Being clean is preferable, obviously, but use a gently scented shower lotion and moisturiser and leave it at that. That way he won't feel like he's got a mouthful of soap."
According to a Psychology Today survey 56% of women are unhappy with their appearance. Can it be that more than half of all women are unattractive? Not likely. "More likely is that a lot of women have unrealistic self-images," says Spurr. "They look in the mirror and see only their faults. That's not how a man sees a woman, quite the reverse."
Even with the skills and experience of a modern-day Don Juan, he's still clueless as to what you'll like, so tell him. "I can't stress enough how much men like guidance," says sex therapist Dr Ian Kerner, author of Passionista: the empowered woman's guide to pleasuring man. "Everything is so much easier with good instructions and being told what feels good can be incredibly sexy too."
You might think you need to lose some weight, you might even think he does too but regardless, he thinks you both look great. According to the Psychology Today survey, 63% of men would like to lose some weight, but despite that they didn't necessarily rate themselves as less attractive - 25% of overweight men rated themselves as 'very attractive'. "Women place more importance on weight as a factor in how attractive they and others are," says Spurr. "But it really isn't a big deal for men. Be weight aware by all means to ensure you keep healthy and fit, but know that the man you're with genuinely thinks you're drop-dead sexy just as you are."
Women have an extra layer of fat under their skin and it makes you feel softer all over. "That difference is why he loves to touch your breasts, your bum and yes, your belly," says Kerner. "Try to relax about it and enjoy him enjoying your fleshy parts - it's what makes you attractive to him!"
Men take great pride in giving you your big O. The thing that's at the forefront of his mind when he sees you naked is that he wants to make the experience fantastic for you... because then he gets to see you naked all over again!
To him, your breasts feel as though they're designed to be grabbed and massaged - like two gigantic stress balls. He has no idea how sensitive they are because, well, he hasn't got a pair himself (we hope!). "The problem with breast fondling is that sometimes women enjoy a bit of man-handling," says Kerner. "At other times women crave a featherlight touch - it's difficult for a man to know which it is." Which is why you need to set the scene early on. "If you're feeling raunchy, show him with your kisses - make them firmer and grab his shoulders; if you're after more romantic love-making, kiss him softly, gently caress his skin. Most men will pick up on these
Those names might not mean much to you but if he's an Arsenal fan these are the names he's probably reciting as he tries desperately not to reach climax too soon. "Guys have all kinds of strange methods to delay orgasm," says Kerner. So how can you make it easier for him? "If he does orgasm a little too soon, show him how to take you to climax with his hands or mouth," says Kerner. "There's no need for you to miss out just because he was too quick to the finishing line." Everyone's a winner.
You'd think, what with all the media attention the clitoris has had, that a man would find it easily. But even if you drew a man a map, if he was with a new woman he still might not be able to find it. Why? "Because each one is different in size, colour, shape and exact location," says Kerner. Some protrude making them easier to find, others are shy and only come out when you're aroused, and still others never seem to be fully visible. "Give the guy a hand," adds Kerner. "If he's fumbling around, take his hand and guide him." If you don't, the only person really losing out is you.
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MeMe
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Posted - 08 Jul 2011 : 16:43:59
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Bit self-gratification going on here, Snuggels? Not what I'd expect to see on this site  |
It is better to die standing than to live on your knees - Ernesto Guevara de la Serna |
Edited by - MeMe on 08 Jul 2011 16:44:33 |
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snuggels
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Posted - 09 Jul 2011 : 08:48:12
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Lesson 3
10 ways to make your love life sizzle in the summer time
. Whether you're already loved up and in a relationship, or on the look out for someone special, here's how to spice things up this summer.
No.1: Bag yourself more confidence!
Surveys show that men find confidence very attractive, so it's crucial to boost your self-belief. Start changing the way you treat yourself, for example: you can beat yourself up daily for 'mistakes' or 'big yourself up' for one good thing you've done that day.
Next, what would you tell a friend who didn't feel good about herself? Write it down in a letter/e-mail but address it to yourself and reread it.
Now list your top three qualities and put them somewhere where you'll see them everyday - taped inside your bathroom cabinet, in your make-up bag, etc. Read and believe them every time you go out, before a meeting, or when you're going to bed, etc.
Single: You'll be on top form to meet to Mr Potential
In a relationship: And if you're part of a couple boosting confidence helps your relationship too.
No.2: Work that body!
Your body language can either send out the signal "I'm easy to approach" or "Don't come near me!" So each opportunity you have to meet someone - practically every time you set foot out the door - give off positive signals. Walk with good posture, don't cross your arms over your abdomen, look people in the eye, be ready to smile, and don't look at the ground when you see someone attractive.
No.3: Find that soothing voice!
You can either allow a negative little devil to chatter on your shoulder - telling you things like you're not good enough - or you can turn it into a soothing angel that reminds you you're worthy of love and happiness. If single, your inner voice heavily influences your chances of attracting love, as well as how things go with the first couple dates. If you're in a relationship, it enhances how you relate to him - the better you feel inside, the more positive the vibes you bring to your relationship.
No.4: Turn up the flirt factor!
If you're single, then definitely practice your flirting skills: lighten up around others, give genuine compliments and show your fun side. The fab flirt makes someone feel good in her company - and you'll be ready to make Mr Potential feel good when you meet him.
If you have a partner, then continuing to flirt helps to prevent your relationship from becoming dull. Keep sending flirty texts/e-mails and put on a flirty tone of voice on the phone, reminding him of something you'd like to do to him in bed that night.
No.5: Aim for fun in the sun!
People feel happier and sexier in the sunshine, so plan outdoor dates with your new man or your long-term partner. Throw together a romantic picnic of finger-foods to hand-feed each other. You can stay close to home in your local park or find a hidden beauty spot - who knows, it might lead to some alfresco passion! Try something new together, like going for a paddle in a rental boat at a local lake, playing tennis, or even a game of croquet ub a beer-garden. Playing such games are a laugh - and laughter boosts endorphins - those feelgood chemicals that will have you feeling on top of the world.
No.6: Dress for sex-cess!
Now is the time to invest in a sexy little number to spice things up. You might be lightly tanned or bronzed courtesy of a little self tan to show off those legs. You're feeling happier and you should flaunt it. Spend time trying on lots of different things until you find something you feel sexually confident in. The new man in your life will think you're gorgeous and a long-term partner will always notice a hot new number in your wardrobe.
No.7: Say what you want!
So you've met a Mr Potential and things are getting hot. Start as you mean to go on by saying what does it for you in the bedroom. Men like to be told. They don't like to feel you're a complete mystery and that they might make lots of mistakes before they do something right.
Likewise, if you're loved-up and the sex hasn't been very good - turn on a sensual sounding voice and tell him how to touch and caress you.
No.8: Ask and ask again!
Just as he wants to know what you want, never be shy of asking him what turns him on. Just by you asking men find it exciting. Coax his secret desires out of him, saying how much you really want to please him.
No.9: Keep ringing the changes!
Some very simple things have been shown to keep your sex-life sizzling. Simply varying where you have sex occasionally, e.g., moving from the bedroom to the lounge helps. Also, don't get lazy and always have 'Sunday morning sex' - turn up the heat on a Wednesday night for some midweek passion. Occasionally suggest trying try a new position as couples get stuck in their favourite one or two and that quickly becomes boring.
No.10: Men are not mind readers!
Finally you can make this your summer of love by remembering this one key rule about men - they can't read your mind. If you've just met him and you're hoping he can 'guess' your moods and what you find romantic, scrap that thought. In tactful ways learn to say what's on your mind. And if you've been with him for one, two, or 10 years, still don't expect him to read your mind. |
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snuggels
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Posted - 10 Jul 2011 : 22:40:37
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Lesson 4
Ladies, if you ever needed an excuse to eat chocolate this has to be it! Chocolate contains tryptophan, which is a building block of serotonin. This is a chemical in the brain which is involved in sexual arousal. Chocolate also contains phenylethylamine, which is a stimulant that is released in the brain when we fall in love. Women are more sensitive to the effects of the queen of aphrodisiac foods, as they produce four times as many endorphins after eating chocolate as they do after a passionate smooch!
If your boyfriend nibbling on almonds has caused you to want to rip his clothes off him don't be shocked as the smell of the nuts is said to arouse passion in women. They are also rich in rich in the amino acid arginine, which boosts your circulation allowing blood to flow to your sexual parts much more freely.
If your boyfriend nibbling on almonds has caused you to want to rip his clothes off him don't be shocked as the smell of the nuts is said to arouse passion in women. They are also rich in rich in the amino acid arginine, which boosts your circulation allowing blood to flow to your sexual parts much more freely.
Avocados are packed with folic acid, which is great at metabolising proteins and therefore boosting your energy levels. Avocado can also increase your libido as it contains passion inducers potassium and vitamin B6.
Not exactly the sexiest of foods but celery is helpful in boosting androsterone, the odorless male hormone, which is well known for the strange arousing effect it has on women.
Another one to fire up your sex life is to add some chilli! We don't mean to go slathering it over your lover but using it in your food is a good way to stimulate your lust, as chillies contain chemical capsaicin. This triggers a surge of endorphins giving you a euphoric high.
Next time you're grabbing some sushi make sure you stock up edamame beans as they contain soy, which contains antioxidants that provide natural lubrication for women. They are also said to be one of the top foods in creating a healthier prostate for men. So get snacking away!
For something to rev-up your sex drive get munching on some fennel as it contains certain compounds that are similar to the female hormone oestrogen and can stimulate women's sexual desire.
It may give you bad breath but garlic is rich in allicin which improves blood flow to the pelvic organs.
With a nickname like 'fruit Viagra' it's no surprise that the little red goji berry is great at boosting your sex life as well as improving your overall stamina, mood and wellbeing. The berries are rich in anti-oxidants and have been known to help raise testosterone levels in both man and women.
The fructose in honey provides necessary energy and stamina that can boost your libido. Honey also contains boron, a mineral that increases the release of oestrogen which in turn fires up your sexual desire.
We've all heard about the sensuous boost that oysters can give. They are rich in amino acids that help release sex as well as containing dopamine, which increases both sexual desire and testosterone levels
Pumpkin seeds are packed with zinc, which has been shown to boost your libido by pumping up your testosterone levels. So get nibbling on them to get those levels up.
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snuggels
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Posted - 10 Jul 2011 : 22:44:22
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lesson 5 you guys
""You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there."
- Bob Marley
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snuggels
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Posted - 12 Jul 2011 : 04:57:08
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Lesson 6
Allow your inner light to guide your love~¢¾
There comes a time that you and I must stand alone
You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams.
You must be willing to make a sacrifices with your ego mind for love of what is.. And not what is not.
You must be capable of changing and rearranging your properties so that your final goal can be achieved.
Sometimes familiarity and comfort need to be challenged
And create your own realities.
Be strong enough to at least try to make your life even more happier and better.
Be confident enough that you won't settle for a compromise of what love is not just to get by.
Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life of what love actually is.
Don't stand in someone else's shadow when it's your SUNLIGHT that should lead the way..~
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snuggels
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Posted - 31 Jul 2011 : 12:23:11
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| No comment from anyone lol |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 31 Jul 2011 : 12:59:38
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| I don't think that you should be too concerned about lack of comments on this snuggles,your topic has been read 360 odd times,the fact that there have been no comments I think reflects readers thinking that you are expressing your ideas,and as such you are entitled to do that,everyone has their own ideas on this and do not wish to engage in a discussion of such personal emotions that the postings outline,I think that is why there has been no postings.Bantaba in cyberspace is a far cry from dating on line,twitter,facebook and other social interactive sites.Your thoughts and way of doing things are specific to you,such is the case with other folks who read bantaba in cyberspace,it is true to say that bantaba in cyberspace has degenerated into mainly a political platform for "discussion",as opposed to a place where posters can discuss about Gambian problems and ideas on improvements in the status of "The Average Gambian" the country's food supply,tourism,travel within Gambia, and such topics that interest posters who are fond of Gambia.people like you and I are not really welcome here and just about tolerated,This is essentially a place for Gambians and Africans.SOME regular posters do their utmost to make us leave using insults and other verbal means to make us go away,in other words, if you don't like what I write "go away".That's my take. |
"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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snuggels
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Posted - 31 Jul 2011 : 13:34:02
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| I do take your point I just trying to do something differnt to keep the theads varied |
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toubab1020
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Posted - 31 Jul 2011 : 17:36:40
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I am pleased you read my words which I THINK are an accurate reflection on bantaba,of course it's up to you what you post, but don't get disheartened by no replies, you got plenty of reads that's something, it's a culture thing maybe.
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I do take your point I just trying to do something differnt to keep the theads varied
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"Simple is good" & I strongly dislike politics. You cannot defend the indefensible.
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